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Sunday, October 19, 2014

It's Not All About You

R.a.n.t. of week 10/19/14
We are often presented with opportunities to either be selfish or selfless. As a child, are we willing to share our treats with others? As an adult, are we willing to allow someone merge into our lane instead of forcing them into the shoulder? As a sit.com. television character, will we simply stand by laughing as an innocent bystander is car-jacked?

Not only can we be selfish to others, we can be selfish to ourselves as well. Take a slob for instance, he's selfish to himself because he allows his laziness to control his life. So he's robbing from himself a chance to lead a clean life. Quite possibly affecting his health, if not his self respect.

Just because a person is an 'adult' doesn't mean they have the ability to do whatever they want in life. Even on a small scale. For example, excluding others is another rant of mine (for another time), but it's also a form of selfishness. When you have certain associates who refuse to accept your invitations and habitually exclude you, it can be frustrating. Especially if the only time you hear from the person is when they need a favour. Ahhh, there we are, the bit of selfishness I was talking about. There is a quote I found online while doing some research for this article. It goes like this. "Don't ask me to do something for you, that you wouldn't do for me." I'm not sure I agree with this quote 100%, but there is a point here. Perhaps this is something we could ask ourselves before asking another person a favour. "If this person asked me to do this for him, would I do it"? Take something simple like a request to run us to the airport when leaving on a business trip. Would we complain if the question were asked of us? Would we be willing to comply? Again, excluding others means we are selfishly thinking of ourselves "This person is good enough to ask favours from, but not good enough for me to associate with."

So selfishness means we are thinking of our own needs. It's a check we should run constantly. If how we act, deprives others of our selflessness we are being selfish. (Duh) And it's something as individuals we should avoid. I have to admit, I forget this at times. Sometimes I'm so wrapped up in trying to acquire something I want, I forget to make sure I'm not neglecting someone else's feelings. Either currently, or potentially in the future. Certainly some food for thought.

Remember: "If you live your life as if everything is about you. You will be left with just that. Just you."


Sunday, October 12, 2014

Don't Put Me In A Box

R.a.n.t. of week 10/12/14
I don't want to assume you feel the same way I do on this matter, but I hate when people simply assume something about me instead of finding out exactly my thoughts on the matter. Because let's be honest, when you assume, you make an ass/u/me. You know what I mean? I'll just assume you get it. This seems to happen to me many times. A person will just assume they know what I'm all about, based on knowing one or two things about me. Now it's true I'm a big Science Fiction nerd, but that doesn't mean I'm not into other things. It certainly doesn't mean I can't be coaxed into trying something new.

A few years back I was talking to a buddy about a demolition derby I attended (viewed HERE) and he was like, "But you are not into cars." True, I'm not a gear head, nor will I likely be one in the near future. But the future is a funny thing. It's determined by our actions and what we learn to appreciate. Either something we discover on our own, or introduced to us by our friends. Regulars of my blog will recall I posted photos not to long ago from an auto show being held close to my house. You can view those photos HERE. When I was younger, I had a dream of buying an old jalopy and spending time restoring it. That never came to be, but that doesn't mean I lost my interest in cars, or in doing that. Granted, I'm not very familiar with the operations of a car currently, I have a hard time telling the difference between a tailpipe and the blinker fluid link. In fact, my first car I didn't even know where the gas cap was. I just poured the gas on top of the car in hopes it would soak in somewhere.

The same thing can be said for motorcycles. I've never owned one, don't even particularly like them. But the same friend mentioned before was surprised on one of my recent trips overseas, I attended a motorcycle race on the Isle of Man for a few days. It was actually very exciting and enjoyable. I loved it and would return again. Again, photos of that can be viewed HERE. Another friend had no idea I was into poetry. Well I'm sure you, the reader, know at least that about me. I've currently penned over 170 different poems. So what's the point? I have the "go to" things I'm into, but don't sell me short. I'm willing to try anything new. For years I never thought I would be into karaoke, and now I have my own machine in the bar which I practice on quite frequently. On a related note, (pun intended) just because I have not listed a particular music band among my favourites, doesn't mean I can't grow to like them. I'm hesitant about trying new foods, but when presented with something new, I'll certainly give it a try. Is there an activity I'm not know for being 'into'? That doesn't mean I wouldn't give it a try. Don't just assume because you know one or two things about me, that you know everything about me or all my interests and dreams. That's like putting me in a box, and that just won't do.

BEING PUT IN A BOX - An item stored away for a later time, for a specific reason. And only for that specific reason. I.E. Winter clothing, Summer clothing, toys at a grandparents house, canning supplies, I think you get the idea. I'm more than just a writer with an interest in science fiction.

Monday, October 6, 2014

Getting Lost

R.a.n.t. of week 10/05/14
So I was driving around this weekend with my friends Charley and Sawyer when we became lost. Well, okay, that's stretching the truth a bit. To be honest, I wish I were driving around with friends when I get lost. I'd have others I could place blame on. As it is, I almost always am driving around alone when I'm meeting friends somewhere. Been in the city all my life and there are still times I rely on GPS. So this weekend I missed out on a few things.

To be fair, I did have a great Saturday with my sister and family on our annual trip to Berres Brothers Cafe and also Lindt Outlet. My dad used to go with us too, so we kept him in mind the entire trip. As always, it was an experience, and for a little while we were in control of the moment. Protected from the stress, the noise and hassle of the rest of the weekend. It was our time. But I digress. Getting back to the topic on hand, at least our little jaunt is somewhat related because on our way, I was asked if we should make a turn and I said "Yes". But he driver kept going straight and we missed our exit on the highway. (Boy do I hate when people don't listen to directions). So we had to go the long way around, utilize the GPS, and arrive later than we had planned. But this proves my point. For a brief moment we were 'lost', and yet there were others in the car to which I was able to blame for us not going in the correct direction.

But I had my own direction fails which are clearly my own fault. Saturday evening I was supposed to meet a group of friends at a local park. We have many parks in the area and I can't seem to remember the names of all of them. Well, I couldn't remember the name we were supposed to meet at but I thought I knew the general direction. I took Forest Home Ave as far as I possible could looking for the park in question only to give up and head home. If I were not so phone shy I would have called someone to ask the name of the park, but that's another rant for another time. Again, I realize this is all my fault and I place no blame with anyone else. But I can still be upset with myself can't I? It's not like it happens every day.

The next day, the same thing happened to me. I was supposed to meet some friends for lunch and I did not have the address written down so I just asked for the address. Given the address, I headed over for lunch. What I didn't ask, or failed to notice, was if the address was North or South (Boy do I hate when I don't listen to directions). There is certainly a big different between North 11th street and South 11th street. Driving to what I thought was the address given me, I found an empty lot.  Were we meeting for a picnic in an empty lot? No. I was just on the wrong side of town. (You can see a photo of me lost and driving on the empty lot above). Once again, a victim of my own stupidity.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Spider


He sits upon his silken web,
awaiting just a single tap.
Patient he, throughout the day,
till interrupted from his nap.

A tremor felt, and then he springs
to his victim in the net.
His venom ends another life.
No remorse, no regret.

J.A.Scott

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Random Rants - II

R.a.n.t. of week 09/28/14
It's that time of the year again. That's right, I've dusted off and turned on the twitter machine to once again find what other people are r.a.n.t.ing about. You've heard me complain enough in the past, it's time to see what everyone else has been irate over this past month or two while I've been on blog hiatus. Of course, as always, I've added my own thoughts on each topic.

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Tearoze
Ok, I've now concluded my twitter rant on behalf of all good and authentic bloggers.
>Sorry I missed it. I must not be a good or authentic blogger. But, I'm just getting started with my rants.

Matt
business not seeing jobs as careers but just temp work
>The CEO of McDonald's might disagree with you.

Rosie G.Whey are Mars Bars so much smaller these days? When I was a kid they were so big you had to carry them in a backpack.
>"Fun Size" has ruined the world and made it less fun. Of course, you could try the candy bar in the link below..
World's Largest Chocolate Bar

Kate D
The price of tea in China.
>Is this a rant about how expensive it is? Or just a statement pointing out that China puts a price on tea?

Crystal Espin
When did it become acceptable for PRs to call you less than 24hrs after sending an email because you haven't responded yet?
>I've learned patience is a virtue. However, some people are far too impatient to learn that.

Dani Torres
I can't stand when professor gets behind on grading, like your the one assigning all of this, if you can't keep up with it then stop
>Some people need to learn patience. (See above).

Allyson
It's fall. 2 months till winter. Of course it's gonna be cold! Maybe you should wear more clothes and stop complaining.
>And just a couple months ago, people were complaining it was too hot. The madness never stops.

Marissa Rebischke
Owning a nice camera doesn't make you a photographer. Much like owning a good set of knives doesn't make you a chef.
>Also, standing in a garage doesn't make you a car. And eating gluten free foods doesn't make you trendy. (See last years random r.a.n.t.s).

Fiona Fussi
I HATE castings where models are treated like cattle. Totally disrespectful and humiliating.
>The looks I get when I tell someone I went to McDonald's for dinner. Totally disrespectful and humiliating. I wonder if that's ever happened in Her World.

kennedie carlson
We know you're in college. We know you drink beer. No need to snapchat it everyday.. nobody from high school cares if you look cool
>Same goes for people and selfies. No need to post what you look like every day. I know what you look like, not cool.

Francesco Pretelli ‏
I cant believe airport wifi is a joke everywhere.
>Not a Boingo fan? I don't blame you. You'd think for the price of a ticket, it could be complimentary. Less peanuts, more wifi.

ashley edgar
Not really sure when not caring about things or people became 'cool', but it's not...Care about people, have dreams, and work hard.
>Though I agree, I hope you don't care I stole your rant. My dream this week is to not work hard and let others do my job for me.

Kim Brown
It is mind boggling to me how rain affects traffic. Just drive, people! And turn on your headlights. Many forgetful folks, it seems.
>Tell me about it. "What is this wet stuff falling from the sky? I better drive like an idiot."

Scott Smith
I hate when I send my friends a text message and they never respond do it. Feels like I'm being ignored.

Stephanie Mertens
If you can drink every weekend but complain you're to broke to do anything else, you should probably reevaluate your life
>Maybe step down from drinking Guinness to Pabst? Of course, if you go that route, may as well skip buying the Pabst all together and just turn on the tap water. Tastes about the same.

SLAMMIN
My hands are clammy, my ears are big, I'm a hairy guy and I'm touchy. I've heard them enough. Every now and then a compliment is nice.
>I liked your rant so I stole it for my blog. Hope that counts as a compliment. Also never forget you're good enough, you're smart enough, and dog-gonnit people like you!

Jaclyn ‏
The technology of this generation has absolutely destroyed the quality of relationships, friendships and human interaction in general.
>Tru dat. I h8 interwebs. B dumbing us all down. But INCYDK I no h8r. C Ya!

Jill Rudison
I absolutely detest doing cardio when the fans are blowing straight down on me. I'm trying to sweat here...grrrrrr
>Perhaps the gym thinks it's not cool to sweat, so they turn the fans on as a courtesy? Still, not cool.

Ahna Kate
Absolutely CAN NOT STAND when other parents judge other kids for their actions when they have no clue about their own.
>Or worse, when they are trying to tell you how to discipline your kids and they don't even have any.

LaToya C ‏
You want your coffee done right? Go to Starbucks because McDonalds will play with your emotions
>Let's not limit our dissatisfaction with McDonald's to just it's coffee, okay?

Martin Ferro-Thomsen
Don't be 15 minutes late for a meeting that you requested. It's more than enough time to decide I don't want to do business with you
>Five minutes would do it for me. Unless they came in with coffee. Then I'd be fine with it. Unless it was from McDonald's. (See above).

Andy Welsh ‏
Sydney yeh you have a nice harbour and beaches but shame you get no time to enjoy them because your stuck in traffic all the time.
>Maybe they are only meant to be looked at as you drive by?

Kelsie Fitz
You have a bf and you talk to like 7282 different guys and you think you're adorable but really you're annoying. sorry
>Talk to 7282 different guys? Are you sure? Haven't I told you a million times to stop exaggerating?

sean
Instead of dropping the "unhealthy" foods from school lunches, why doesn't Michelle just tell kids to take a jog.
>Ever try and get a kid to choose between eating an unhealthy food and taking a jog?

Melissa A.R.
Being sick.
>This is what happens when you eat unhealthy school food and refuse to go out for a jog. (See above)

Broooooke ‏
I hate when people ask "why are you dressed up"? umm maybe because I wanna look cute for myself and actually be confident for once
>To be cute and confident? Or in case you run into Justin Timberlake?

Dave Hale ‏
Pps just need to exercise their manors. It doesn't cost you anything to be polite... That is all..
>I hear Bruce Wayne exercises in his manor. Just don't ask if you can use his gym. That wouldn't be good manners.

linds
just bc someone might have more fat on their body than you doesn't mean they can't be healthier or in better shape
>Fair enough, but I've never seen Jabba the Hut win a footrace.

Bacardi Oakheart
I always think rants say more about the person ranting than the thing they're ranting about anyway.
>My blog must say volumes about me then.

michael
people...an apostrophe + "s" does not make a plural!
>People... they're grammar mistakes using apostraphes is hilarious.

Christina M
Being put on the spot....
>Children are good at doing this. Parents just need to teach their kids basic aspects of decency.

Abdullah
So many little kids these days are spoiled ingrates whose parents couldn't bother to teach them the most basic aspects of decency
>Would you rather see the parents smoking in front of their kids? How crazy would that be?

Formula Frank
Seeing a pregnant woman smoking makes me furious. That poor child doesn't have a chance before its even born
>People still do this? Thought everyone had moved over to those 'vapor' cigarettes.

superozzie
"Vapor" cigarettes. They still stink.
>Not that I disagree with you, but people always find something to complain about. (See below).

enrique29
Derek Jeter haters!
>Hating haters. What could be funnier?

Aaron R
Why they put Jarjar Binks into Star Wars Episodes 1-3?
>To give people something to complain about, to sell more toys, to distract from how annoying Anakin was, take your pick.

Jonathan Morrison
The problem isn’t that the 6 Plus bends the most, it’s the fact that IT DOESN’T BEND BACK.
>Come now, let's be nice. Apple is bending over backwards to give us a decent product.

TMI Memes
I hate when people get mad about my tweets. This is a MEME ACC. IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE FUNNY.












Sunday, September 21, 2014

Stop Being Insecure

R.a.n.t. of week 09/21/14
I promise, this is the last week for a guest blog. I'll be back to complain once again, next week. It's been a rough few months, but I'm looking forward to getting back to my writing. This weeks blog entry from Jenni Long.

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After talking to a friend a few days ago, I got to realizing he was complaining about a non-issue. Something made up in his mind. But this isn't a problem he suffers from alone. Every day, things transpire in our lives which we worry about. Typically, the worries are unjustifiable. Each month, 'Fille Forte' receives many questions along these lines. I.E., "I think my friend is mad at me, what did I do?", "Why is my friend ignoring me?", and my personal favourite, "I heard my friend went out with another friend, but I wasn't invited. Why?" When you think of it, each question is just a form of insecurity; no real problem exists. When I responded to my friend, I told him the same thing the girls in the magazine are generally told.

1.) The problem is yours alone.
2.) You are causing the bad situation.
3.) It could be harming your friendship.
4.) You should seek to resolve the situation.

Let's take the first question, "I think my friend is mad at me, what did I do?"
"Dear Worried,
How certain are you your friend is mad at you? Did they tell you this specifically? Or are you just assuming? It's very possible you did nothing. In a true friendship, we should never try to read minds. When you start making assumption based on what you think the other person is thinking, you are simply inventing a problem that does not exist. If she is truly your friend, you need to develop trust. Trust she does not get mad for trivialities. Trust that if she is mad, she will let you know when she's ready. And if she is upset about something, she may come to realize it's silly and let it go."

Second question, "Why is my friend ignoring me?"
"Dear Ignored,
Sometimes we may think a person is ignoring us, but in reality they are involved in some other activity. If you send a text message to a friend and they do not respond right away, it does not mean they are ignoring you. Like you, they have other things going on in their lives. It would be hazardous to think you are the centre of your friends world. Perhaps they are dealing with parents, or have had chores assigned to them. Don't be pushy and selfish. Your friend will get back to you when they can. You wouldn't want them to think you are narcissistic. Whatever you do, don't complain about being ignored. This could actually push your friend away and they may truly start to ignore you. If you are having a hard time waiting to hear back from a friend, get involved in something else. Go for a walk, watch a funny film, read a magazine article. It's possible you are just being impatient."

Final question, "I heard my friend went out with another friend, but I wasn't invited. Why?"
"Dear Not Invited,
You are being insecure about something you needn't be. Like you, she has other friends to associate with. If you draw attention to this problem, you are likely to draw attention to your insecurity. Insecurity can be a turn-off, even among friends. It's not possible for you to invite all your friends to absolutely everything you do. The same is true for others. Let your friends have other friends. It doesn't mean they no longer like you. It simply means they decided to spend time with another friend. When you do something with a specific friend, does that mean you've stopped liking your other friends? No. The same is true for everyone."

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Jenni Long is a writer and editor
of the Canadian children's magazine
'Fille Forte'. That being said, her
thoughts do not necessarily reflect
those of myself.

Sunday, September 14, 2014

The Impossible Girl

R.a.n.t. of week 09/14/14
Like last week, I've decided to use a guest blogger this week before I jump back in to writing my own r.a.n.t.s once again. Thanks for your patience and understanding.

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When a situation is presented to most people, it is either greatly accepted or looked at apprehensively. Those taken to apprehension have various views on the situation presented. Either it's not accepted because it's out of their comfort zone, or they view it as something rather difficult. Either difficult to believe, or difficult to accomplish. "It's impossible", they may call out. But what is impossibility? Alice (in Wonderland) was encouraged to believe impossible things. And yet, is something impossible, truly impossible? Look at a few of the things Alice found impossible to believe in. A cat who disappeared leaving only a cheesy grin, a bottle of mysterious fluid that allowed her to shrink in size, and a deck of playing cards following the orders of a tyrannical Queen who seemingly wanted to see everyone without a head. And all this before breakfast. So how capable would you be to accept any of these impossible scenarios? And are they really impossible?

To illustrate, let's journey back a couple hundred years. On our trip, we will bring a set of walkie talkies a flash-light and a digital camera. Before showing any of these items to any of the locals, we will describe each item. To which, they will declare them to be impossible. How can one cause a beam of light to shoot from one's hands? Or listen to a person from a mile away, as though they were standing right next to you? Or hold the perfect image of someone in an instant, within the palm of your hand. That's impossible! And then when you show them the items, they may gradually learn to accept them as possible. If they don't burn you for witch-craft.

So maybe not all situations presented to us are as impossible as we feel they are. I know there are several things to which I consider impossible, that I'd like to at least hope are just illusions of impossibility. What about you? Is there anything that others claim to be impossible, that you consider within the realm of possibility? And for the record, no, I don't believe the situations in Alice in Wonderland are possible. They are quite impossible.

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Professor Sanee resides in Italy
and teaches the course 'the
Ethics of Humour' at I.M.A.
She's also author of the book,
"Why Isn't Anyone Laughing?"